What are possible reasons for some people never apologizing, even when they are in the wrong? What could contribute to their lack of remorse or guilt for hurting others?

For those capable of affect, which is most of us, shame is the root of an inability to face one's poor behavior or lack of action. You can't rescue that, though. You can't tiptoe your way through safely and you certainly can't safely confront it.

You also can't tie your sense of well-being to it. It is a no win situation, by design. These are seeds planted to stunt growth. It's reverse competition and what shamed people do to maintain the illusion of superiority where there is little self respect.

You want to know what you can do? Have enough self respect to be selective of the company you keep. We have colloquialisms for that.

I wasted way too much living taking on the karma of others until I realized I wasn't as in charge of mine as I wanted to believe. How could I be, if I am distracted by others? That IS much of the charm in it. Being actually in charge of oneself is charge enough!

People in need of an apology from anyone but themselves seek validation of their perceptions. This is often an indication someone is struggling with projection: theirs, someone else's or the contrast between the two. It is a sign to ask deeper questions about the Self and role of contrast in universal expansion. My life changed dramatically when I learned forgiveness of self was the cure for my outrage. Being a conscientious observer flows much better!

The ape/consciousness Being is capable of mighty projections. You can create your own, cocreate or join another's, you are responsible for that choice. Above all else, strive to perceive more than you project! Much of the time, this is done through compassionate inquiry.

Compassionate inquiry is effortful and requires interpersonal skills but we are designed to do. It is in that exchange we often find the ability to come together over experiences which are dissimilar. It honors the experiences of both parties and offers opportunity for integration of a third, shared, experience. THAT is expansion!

Sometimes we must see another before they will allow us to be seen. Avoid relationships where, regardless of your efforts, you are not seen.

If children are taught healthy boundaries, they learn to respect themselves and others. They know where they begin and end and can recognize trespasses. Healthy humans aren’t perfect but they are accountable and evolving. If one is not raising children, living and leading by example is contribution enough.

Be what you want to see! With love, Keya Diné 🤎

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