On Baiting aka Reactive Abuse

Baiting. If you react, then you can be painted out-of-control. Then you'll feel badly and adjust your reality to make room for your self betrayal. Then, you're sufficiently controlled through the shame trigger they are counting on.

How to make someone react?

1. Make false promises.  Better yet, humiliate the target when you do.

2. Rack up a bill and stick the target with it and a #1.

3. Blame the target for #2, #1 and all the numbers.

4. Repeat cycle.

Now you've got them hurt and desperate. If you can trap them, even better! That's easy to portray as disproportionate anger. Easy to get someone to betray themselves. How powerful the weak if you react. 

They know they're stealing you away from yourself. Then, maybe, you'll know how it feels. Because you're that someone who did it to them. After all, you made them feel...

But you didn't! That's an old wound and you're caught up in a cycle which has nothing and everything to do with you. You're a prop and your experience is irrelevant. They won't bother to even inquire. They aren't curious about you. You, as a whole person, can't exist!

Likely because they can't. It's a projection.

Pass! Let that cycle play out without you. There's no room for anyone except hostages.

Be what you want to see! Keep yourself sovereign to do so.

With love, Keya Diné 🤎