Drama Triangles, Hijacking, and Terrorism

Drama triangles require a persecutor, rescuer, and victim but only two people. This is, in part, what keeps the script mind blowing. The cognitive dissonace which sets the stage.

You can either be the persecutor or rescuer. The role of victim is reserved for the person most high in narcissistic traits. They will cling to that role and shed anything which doesn't fit. They may get quiet about it but they will never forgive you. Their life is devoted, behind the scenes, to making you pay for making them feel....

...because their feelings are justification for how they show up. They learned a long time ago, love feels like everyone making way for their emotions. If you don't make way, you don't know how to love. Shame on you!!!! You should pay for that. That'll teach you to fall in line with the script never given so they're always a winner.

This isn't a love conflict, this is a hijacking. Your life and worth are being hijacked. To your face, you'll receive praise and approval. Every action, however, will become a counter terrorist attack, even though you're not at war.

You are, you just don't know it. It's been waged by the one declaring it's "love". But that admiration was just note taking. Not to get to know you. They don't actually have the capacity for that. They've learned enough to project what they need. They stopped taking you in once that threshold was reached. You don't actually exist as a flexible and sovereign being to experience with respectful curiosity. You've become a prop.

A disposable one. One who is trashable! And in that state of depletion, be convinced they need the support of another to get back on top. Specifically them!

You don't! You were on high when you met and you can get right back to it. If you weren't then now is the time!

I can assure you, they never get less burdensome. Making your life harder is their favorite past time. What fun! Your responses empower them like a good partner would, so that's a valuable ride. And, if they're lucky, they'll get you to react, instead of respond, and they can blame you for everything they're intentionally avoided accountability for, mostly because it will drive you crazy with confusion. The power of otherwise powerless people.

Baiting and reactive abuse. It's not even creative or new. It's something a small child resorts to for lack of better resources. Someone got stuck! That doesn't mean they should be yours to raise. It doesn't work that way, anyway. This is one of those "let them be" moments.

It's up to each of us to Become. Narcissism is a failure to. It shows up as blame and an inability to actualize potential intentionally and consistently.

Be what you want to see. With love, Keya Dine